Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services
Information for family and friends
Research suggests that perfectionistic personality traits are associated with eating disorders.
Of course, there are useful things about being perfectionistic – working hard to get things just right. But excessive perfectionism can stop being helpful and start to get in the way.
For example, what if you feel you have to keep working on your homework all night to get it perfect and then you are too exhausted to concentrate in class the next day? What if you can’t decide what would be the perfect answer to the exam question, and so you end up writing nothing at all? What if you put in so many hours trying to get a report just right for your boss that you miss seeing your children or partner? What if you’re trying so hard to look like the models you see in the media that you start skipping meals, or making yourself sick?
How can you help your child decide what’s “good enough”, so that they can relax and enjoy life a bit more? Here are some ideas:
Last updated: 2 April, 2019